How to Unleash Your Kinky Side Using BDSM Sex Positions

There are a variety of reasons why bondage is a popular form of sexual liaison. You get to experiment with ideas of power and control, and it can help you find things that turn you on that you didn’t know existed.

If you’d like to give bondage a shot, here are some positions to get you started. (Warning: Use CAUTION! In BDSM, any discomfort you experience should be your choice. Discuss everything first, use a safe word, do your homework on the equipment, and don’t forget to get consent.)

Positions are written as if you’re the one doing the tying up for the sake of clarity and your enjoyment. However, if you decide to remove the handcuffs, you can do so with ease.

Toes dragging on the ground

Bind the legs of your partner so that they are in a sort of ankles-by-head missionary to the headboard (if you have one). Give them a quick slap on the back and promise to return in a few minutes so they can enjoy the sexiness of being at your mercy. Returning, you have the option of serving them gently with your mouth, hands, or whatever else you’ve got going on between your legs when you return. You can also be a little more tormenting, such as spanking them or touching them almost but not quite how they want until they can no longer take it.

If a dungeon theme isn’t your style, consider a set of restraints that can be hidden under your bed. A set with straps and soft wristlets will allow you to tie your partner spread-eagled to the bed when you are cuddled up in bed. Toy with their bum and give them a reach-around at the same time by putting them face-up or face-down on the bed. Vibrators or… switches, if you’ve agreed to that, can help spice things up.

As a result, a full strip search of your partner is required. Demand that they strip off all of their clothes and handcuff themselves in a way that only they can understand. Tell them you’ll have to blindfold them as part of the experiment because that’s how it’s done. Use your hands and mouth to help them conduct a thorough search of your person. Squirm or get too turned on, point this out and you can give a little swipe with a flogger at this point! (less hardcore than a full-on whip or cane). Increase or decrease their punishment based on how you and your partner feel about it.

It’s a “damsel in distress” bondage, but with a guy in the chair, it’s a little more interesting. To tie his legs and arms to the chair, use a chair with a straight back. If the chair does not have armrests, you can tie his wrists behind the chair or even to his own thighs if you want to be safe. To get his attention, give him a slow strip tease so he has time to grow more enamoured with you. Stroking yourself in front of him until you are about to orgasm is a fun way to tease him. When he starts pleading for your attention, that’s when he has your attention. Let him beg for a little while, then make him wait a little longer, and then climb aboard and have your way with him.

You should get on your knees and stretch your arms straight back between your legs while your partner’s shoulders are resting on top of the mattress. Separate their ankles and bind their biceps with a rubber band. Use their vulnerability to your advantage by attempting things you’ve previously discussed (see consent above) but haven’t yet attempted. Use a well-lubricated hand to stroke your guy’s penis, do some ball handling, and rub his inner thighs until he’s relaxed and open, for example. Lube his bum by massaging it with your fingers as you work your way up to the actual innards. After that, slowly and gently insert your finger into the gap. Depending on his reaction, you can switch from stroking to a full-on finger fuck.